My Thoughts on “Kanojo ni Naru Hi” Chapters 9 and 10
Where do I start on this? Ugh… this is going to be rambly. I suppose I should start at the main question I had about whether Mamiya was in love with Miyoshi before emergence? I’m not sure what to make of the answer. Yes, Mamiya loved Miyoshi, but it sounds like he “couldn’t get it up for Miyoshi” (and even if Mamiya did “get it up”, would Miyoshi be sexually attracted to Mamiya as a male.) Emergence seemed to solve all of these issues. Mamiya got to love Miyoshi and be loved by Miyoshi as he always wanted to, and Miyoshi got to deal with his gynophobia with his best friend. It all seems very convenient.
With regard to the question of biology vs. the heart, it looks like Ogura settles on romantic love being a combination of sexual attraction, which is biological, and deep affection, which is a matter of the heart. I tend to agree with this. I won’t quibble about loving my female best friends, but I’m not sexually attracted to them. I have life-long friends who are inseparable from family in my mind. So I get this. In terms of Mamiya wanting to be sexually attracted to Miyoshi, that’s still a mystery. Why wasn’t being friends enough for Mamiya? It seems to me before emergence, Mamiya couldn’t go further than sexual attraction and broke off relationships before any emotional attachment could be formed to any girls. Perhaps Miyoshi is the only person that Mamiya is emotionally attached to.
My other nagging question is whether Mamiya’s feelings for Miyoshi instigated late emergence. The timing is basically nearing the edge of human maturity, like it was Mamiya’s last chance. If this is the case, then it also raises the same question about Sagara’s late emergence. (We don’t have any insight into Sagara and Narumi’s first meeting. We know about Sagara and Kurokawa’s past though.) And what about Kurokawa? She seemed contented up until now to replace her sister. Did her strong feelings from the lost of her sister instigate her emergence? What about children and infants? Are feelings involved or can emergence happen randomly or be instigated by something else?
Moving onto Mamiya’s mom. I don’t understand the whole thing with Mamiya’s mom abandoning him entirely for some other guy. Are families split that clearly as a result of divorce in Japan? Regardless, I’m glad Mamiya had a mother figure to guide her after emergence. I feel like that parenting aspect is missing from Sagara’s life in “Another”.
I’m not sure what to think of Mamiya’s father. I’m sure that has to be a mind fuck for him for his boy to turn into a woman who looks very much like his beloved ex-wife. I feel like he and Mamiya need to have a talk so they can start moving past the awkwardness. At some point Mamiya is going to need her father to affirm that she is not like her mother despite her appearance. I do wonder if Mamiya is going to be reunited with her mother at some point in the story. Do I want to read that? I don’t know. After she abandoned Mamiya, I’m done with her in my mind, but I’m thinking from the perspective of an American, where it’s not acceptable for a mother to abandon her children, even after divorce.
The baseball challenge was amusing. Poor Miyoshi thinks it’s about Mamiya not wanting to be his wife and girlfriend, when actually Mamiya doesn’t ever want to lose to Miyoshi and Mamiya must always have control of the situation. She asks Miyoshi to live together and she overwrites Miyoshi’s marriage proposal with her own. I laughed hard when Mamiya started pitching for real after Miyoshi was thinking bullshit to himself about him suddenly be better at baseball than Mamiya by virtue of his penis. Wrong.
There are many scenes I like from the two chapters, so bear with this giant collage.